Aliens

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While walking down Leopoldstrasse, my daughters and I came across this amazingly tall sculpture of a white being. Just beside the sculpture was a little box with information about this creation. The Walking Man, as we learned it was titled, was created in 1995 by an American artist named Jonathan Borofsky. The description depicts the being as walking forward, “The purposeful motion and body language suggest a will to set out in search of new horizons and a determination to progress in the original sense of the term… a symbol of the human desire to move forward.”

While this sculpture and description touched us, it was in reviewing our tour books where our minds really started to race.  For example, on page 96 of the May 2008 edition of Lonely Planet’s Munich, Bavaria & the Black Forest (We used this book when we came to Germany when our daughters were younger and still loved dressing as princesses!) the sculpture is described as “a white 17m-high alien captured in mid-stride.” This is not much different from Lonely Planet’s 2000 edition of Munich, which on page 114 states describes the statue as “the giant white alien striding out of No 36…”.

Always looking for a way to get my girls to discuss current affairs, I asked them if the descriptions made them think of anyone today. Their first response was the three of us on our hike that day. We were out on a walk and our mission was an adventure without Dad (who was in Berlin). That then led to a conversation about while we were moving forward, a little bit of them wanted to go backwards so they could see their friends in the USA again. We talked about how moving forward can be scary, and we can miss what is behind us. We also talked about how nothing is gone forever and how excited we’d be in a few weeks when our friends started visiting us in Germany.

It was when we talked about the guidebook descriptions that our conversation truly became creative. It started with the question, “Do you think the sculpture is an alien like the guidebook says?” My younger daughter said it could be, or it could just be a bald person like Uncle Pat (she’s my jokester child!). My older daughter (the contemplative child) said that an alien is someone here from somewhere else, just like we were in Germany. I asked who else would be considered an alien, and together both girls came up with:

  • new kids in our classes
  • people that move to our country from somewhere else
  • an actual alien, like E.T. (Thank goodness we don’t miss the obvious ones!)
  • the refugees they heard about when I made them watch the political conventions with me

The conversation just exploded from there –the refugees from Syria as Aliens. Combining both sculpture descriptions, the Syrian ‘Aliens’ ‘set out in search of new horizons [with] a determination to progress …”. They made a brave decision, one I don’t think many others could make, to leave everything they know and many they love behind in hopes of moving forward towards progress. Just like our ancestors did when they moved to North America. Just like our neighbor did when her family were refugees in Germany from East Prussia in the 1940’s.

When we look at the two descriptions combined, there is no one who has not been an alien, a refugee, a person moving with a purpose at some point in time. Isn’t that enough reason that we should show more compassion, support and encouragement as they head out in search of new (and hopefully better) horizons for themselves and their families? We all need to take that ‘Walking Man’ pose and start our purposeful journey towards a better society.

The things my daughters are teaching me….. WOW!

 

 

 

What I’ve learned in Munich (So Far!)

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My first family selfie taken at Nymphenburg Palace.

We just finished our first week in Munich and I don’t think I’d be jinxing it by claiming it a success. We found our house and have settled in nicely. Grocery shopping was an experience – all six times we tried it (we really need to figure out how to plan our food better!). We’ve figured out the bus/tram/subway/train system with all its sixteen rings. And we found the local Gelato place – many times.

With all these adventures I have learned a couple of things:

  1. The numbers on the left side of the street do not relate to the numbers on the right side of the street. In Munich, it is the same as in the US with odd numbers on one side and even numbers on the other. The difference is that the numbers go up at different rates by number of front doors, so you can be at 262 on one side and 65 on the other. We found this out as we were looking for a concert and walked over a kilometer too far. Oh well. Lesson learned and we at least got some exercise.
  2. I don’t think the Germans have a snack tooth. While they have aisles and aisles of cheese and salamis there are no cookies and very few chips here. And no ice cream. Stores just have a small selection of Gelato and pops. This is a definite boost for my plans to eat healthier!
  3. There is music everywhere. We could go to a concert every afternoon and every evening. It is wonderful, but I think my girls would kill me if I make them sit through too many organ/harp concerts.
  4. I miss seeing people smile. When you get on a train or walk down a street people don’t smile or say Good Morning to each other. Hopefully I am just not looking in the correct direction.
  5. Adventures are more magical and rewarding when you can share them with family and friends. I first came to Munich over 15 years ago, by myself. I was visiting my friend Gerald before I returned home from a work trip to Romania. That time in Munich was amazing: walking all over by myself, meeting Gerald’s friends, seeing a real castle for the first time. None of that compares to being here now with my family and doing everything together. Of course we may be sick of each other by the time the trip is over, but the memories we are creating are absolutely glorious. I can’t imagine this trip, or my life, without them. I am truly blessed.

Celebrating The Small Stuff

IMG_2295We all have times in our lives when we feel sorry for ourselves. Then something happens that makes it all seem manageable. For our family, most of the woes focus around eating. With Emeline having PKU, we need to do a lot of research before we go somewhere to make sure that there will be food options for her. Until we get there, we wonder if our research was outdated or correct, or if we get there and they all of a sudden decide to change their options. So when we got to the REAL store (similar to Walmart) and they had a whole section of coconut milk products, Emeline was thrilled. They had four different kinds of cheeses, several kinds of coconut milk and even four flavors of coconut yogurt (she wasn’t too happy about this since she has once again decided she doesn’t like yogurt). Anyhow, when we saw this, we did a little happy dance in the  aisle – I know, just what the German folks want, more crazy Americans!

We also celebrated when we found our way home after our first day of adventuring, when we all (including me) successfully counted to ten in German, when the car we rented wasn’t towed or ticketed, and when we all woke up before 9 without an alarm. We figure with all the bigger challenges we may face in life, we should bank up on the happiness. It may mean a few extra calories (love the sorbet!), or some mess (painting is a great way to celebrate a moment), or a couple of Euros, but it is worth it.

So take some time today and celebrate the small stuff!

First Days of Our Journey

Many Paths

Yesterday we played it safe and stuck to exploring the English Garden that runs through Munich. While on our hike we went off the path (I’m sure you’re all surprised at that) and made our way down to the river that runs through the park. As we came out of the woods and stepped onto the little bit of rocky beach the lined the water, I was amazed by the beautiful bridge above us. Beyond that bridge was another bridge that was very plain and linear. Just past that was yet another bridge that was even more ornate than the first.

As someone who loves metaphors and putting meaning to simple things, I couldn’t help but look at these bridges as reflections of our lives. When we are trying to get to somewhere, whether it be an actual place, a goal, or even a state of mind, there are many ways to get there. We could take the first bridge with its middle of the road decorations, we could go on to take the simple bridge, or go grand on the third bridge. All would get us over the river, just at different places in time. The bridges would also take us back to where we started if we decided we didn’t like where we were. Or maybe we don’t want to take a bridge at all. Maybe we decide to walk through the river (it is very shallow) or to just stick where we are. We could choose to go it alone, or with a group of friends. With supplies or without. Walking, biking, dancing, skipping or driving? It’s our choice.

After tooling around on the beach a while, we walked back along the shoreline, only to see that there were many more bridges behind us. We are always going to have bridges in our lives, and in the end we may not remember our choices, or recognize that we even made choices, but each bridge gives us more experiences that hopefully help us decide what to do whenever we come to a new one. I am so thankful that my family is not only willing, but excited about going on this bridge journey together.

May the bridges you choose keep you connected to us, and if you ever need a crossing mate, give us a call!

 

Defying Gravity

For those of you who know our family, you know that the Broadway musical Wicked is extremely important to us. We have listened to the soundtrack thousands of times, dissecting the lyrics and talking about what the words mean to us. Not surprisingly, the songs have meant different things to us at different times. For example, we regularly examine “Popular”, the quintessential song about believing that people need to fit a certain mold in order to be valued and friend-worthy. Sometimes we are on the side of Glinda, the popular girl who thinks being different is strange and unbecoming. And other times we embrace the message of Elphaba, the green skinned witch that tries to be who she really is, in spite of how others treat her. As you can imagine, with two daughters that are both so alike and so different, the conversations can get animated, but they love it.

My favorite song in the play is Defying Gravity, sung at the point when the two friends need to choose their own paths. One friend realized that she no longer had a dream of working with the wizard, a dream she had since she was little and so desperately wanted to fit in. Instead she wanted to embrace her true, green self and do what she thought was right. The other friend decided that it was through her long-term dream that she could accomplish what she believed was right.  Their beliefs of what needed to happen were the same, but how they went about accomplishing it was different and fit with their own personalities and characters. It wasn’t until the two women became friends that they had the strength and courage to be themselves, to “defy gravity.”

As we start our travels around southern Europe, I hope that as a family we embrace every opportunity (including writing our blogs) to defy gravity. As the song says, “Everyone deserves the chance to fly,” and this is our chance. Who knows how high we will fly, or where we will land, but we’re doing it together.

To close this first blog, I want to quote another song from Wicked, “For Good.” For all of our family and friends, and for future friends we have yet to meet:

“I’ve heard it said that people come into our lives for a reason, bringing something we must learn. And we are led to those who help us most to grow, If we let them. And we help them in return… Because I knew you, I have been changed for good.”

Thank you to everyone that has helped us become our true Bonnie, Ken, Cecelia and Emeline. You have all changed us for good!